By sandi | June 5, 2013
Those crazy kids got married young. There were tons and tons of naysayers who doomed their relationship just as it began. I have a good amount of pessimism in me and I would say that my older self would be inclined to agree with them. It was crazy and it likely shouldn’t have worked out, but it did.
First, there was working 1-2 jobs and going to college full time. While doing that we bought our first house at the tender age of 22. We had student loans, car payments, and what never seemed like enough money coming in. We worked so hard in those first years that it was hard to settle down and relax as we grew older.
We finally decided to have a family and that was not easy either. We had to fight and struggle for years before we finally met our children. Maybe it was all the struggle that kept us together all those years. We clung to each other to save ourselves from all the trials.
The second half of our 20 years was spent learning how to not only be Bill and Sandi, but to be parents to our children. This is no easy feat. Bill and I had very different upbringings and our personalities are so different that we often struggled between what each of us wanted. Not only did we add the children into the mix but we had to deal with the loss of a parent. This stuff brings a lot of stress into life.
To say there haven’t been days where we almost threw in the towel would be a lie. Life is hard. It isn’t fair and things don’t always work out the way you would have planned them. It has rarely been easy, but it has always been worth it.
20 years. It is such a long time. If we had had a child when we were first married, (aside from our lives being completely different than they are now) we would have an adult child now. A child, who if it was like us would already be married.
2 decades have passed while we were married. The next milestone with be a quarter of a century! Things are getting pretty serious around here.
Remember those starry eyed kids in that photograph above? When those kids were married around 5 years they said, “If we make it to 20 years we will go on an Alaskan cruise.” I already told you how little money those two had, how they scraped by all the time and how this dream sounded like a fairy tale rather than something they could actually attain. Well, here we are 20 years later and by golly we are on that cruise.
It seems like a long time and a short time all in the same moment. When you say 20th Anniversary it definitely sounds bigger than it has felt day by day.
We are still here. We are still in love and we are still working on making our dreams come true.
Since you know how I often just blurt out songs that pertain to how I am feeling I say a nice dose of Sony and Cher’s “I’ve Got You Babe” will do for the naysayers and the Laverne and Shirley show theme “Making Our Dreams Come True” for those who always knew we would be here 20 years later.
The struggles and triumphs make up our story. I have never read a story that didn’t include some sort of strife in it. There is a plaque I have seen that says “every love story is beautiful, but ours is my favorite”. I would have to agree. It has been 20 years of effort and every moment has been worth it.